Why do the relations fall apart?

May be the title of this posting is not very appropriate. Then, why didn't i change it? Let's see why!

The title suggests one more analysis of relationships and their falling apart. But actually, there might be a million reasons for a relation to fall apart. Obviously, no writer has enough ink in his/her pen to write all them down. These analysis are always subjective. From a particular point of view. I am trying to present one such point of view here.

When two people, come together, get into a relationship, both the partners have an image of a person they are looking in their other partner. This leads to expectations, to be precise, unbalanced mutual expectations. Now, here is the problem. Having mutual expectations is not a problem but imbalance is a problem. And severity of the problem is directly proportional to the heights of expectations. The higher expectations we have, more imbalanced they are...

So, you see the key is, trying to keep expectations lower. Trying to accept the person as he or she is... trying to respect the other persons identity rather than changing it as per our idea of perfect partner...

Think about it...